Is advising people that they should work out more "fat-shaming"?

I want to apologize for a crime that I haven't committed.

I don't have a problem apologizing if it satisfies the other person.
I don't have a problem apologizing if it satisfies the other person.

A blog follower claimed that I'd hurt him and I want to address his concerns, especially since there might be others who feel the same way.


Since he didn't specify which blog post had upset him, I will try to address his concerns as accurately as I can.


Here's his entire email:

"how shallow that because he is somewhat fluffy, you won't see him again. If he is as fantastic as you describe in both blog entries you are denying yourself and him the opportunity for something more (even though you say you aren't looking, one never knows what he future holds). I'm sure you can be that picky and judgmental and still get many guys, but as hot as you are your preference for only "in-shape" men means I have no chance and besides I kind of threw up in my mouth when you mentioned you could not look at his body. It was hurtful to me, it IS shallow, mean and says more about you than him. Why would I subject myself to more of your fat-shaming by reading more of your otherwise, colorfully descriptive and masterfully erotic, skilled command, of the English language! I mean no disrespect, but I am being as blunt as you are. I hope that you might experience some growth and enlightenment on this subject."

I'll address each accusation separately:

"how shallow that because he is somewhat fluffy, you won't see him again. If he is as fantastic as you describe in both blog entries, you are denying yourself and him the opportunity for something more (even though you say you aren't looking, one never knows what the future holds)."

I'm not sure which fuck buddy he was talking about. But in any case, since I got fucked by countless men, I'm a good judge of character. I'm sure that there were more reasons I'd rejected that person that I didn't write about.


In any case, who is he to tell me with whom I should or shouldn't fuck?


In other words, he should mind his own ass and let me take care of mine!

My sweaty ass after working out.
My sweaty ass after working out.

As regards "one never knows what the future holds."


It was a weird comment since I have a boyfriend.

A symbol of love that I gave Felix for his birthday.
A symbol of love that I gave Felix for his birthday.

I'm not looking for anything other than steamy, fantastic breeding. Therefore, by rejecting that fuck buddy, I didn't lose any "opportunity."


On to his next argument:

"I'm sure you can be that picky and judgmental and still get many guys, but as hot as you are, your preference for only "in-shape" men means I have no chance."

I'll start with the last part about having "no chance."


That person lives 7000 miles away from me. What kind of a chance was he hoping to have with me?


Was he planning on aiming at my hole from such a distance?

If you want to fuck me, you'll need to travel to Israel first.
If you want to fuck me, you'll need to travel to Israel first.

Besides, he's lost his "chance" after describing me as: "judgmental," "shallow," "mean," and other disrespectful terms.


As for being "picky and judgmental":


Handsome men can indeed be more selective, but why is that an issue? Intelligent people also have a better selection of jobs to choose from.


I don't think that this makes me a "judgmental" character!

I'm happy that I can be choosy when it comes to my sex partners!
I'm happy that I can be choosy when it comes to my sex partners!

I admit that I'm opinionated and have a strong personality and I'm grateful for it. It helped me recover from the neurological injury that had made me 30% disabled.


It keeps me happy and not afraid of losing the rest of my brain!

I don't plan to apologize for that!
I don't plan to apologize for that!

I often write about how I do my best to respect and treat others fairly.


I have hundreds of responses from blog followers of all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages thanking me for being there for them (I will publish two notable ones soon).


Just today, I've spent a lot of time helping a lovely older guy buy his first vibrator.


Here's his response:


As for my preference for "in-shape" men:


To whom I'm attracted is my own business. I'm not sorry about it, nor am I going to apologize for it.


I'm more attracted to a fit/lean/toned/muscular body type when it comes to guys younger than me. That's how my brain is wired, and apologizing for it sounds ridiculous!


It's like apologizing for being a bottom! I can't help it!!!

Some try to tell me I'm wrong for being an exclusive bottom.
Some try to tell me I'm wrong for being an exclusive bottom.

But what about men who are older than me?


I wish I could give testimonies of older married men from the nudist beach who enjoyed my ass or others I video-chatted with.


Most of them weren't as fit as I am.


However, I still enjoyed their virtual or real cock while offering them my body and love hole.

I don't expect older lovers as fit as I am.
I don't expect older lovers as fit as I am.

What's the difference between older and younger lovers?


When choosing an older guy to make love to my body, other factors are at play.


One factor is pubic hair. I won't have sex with an older guy with a shaved cock since I'm looking for a man, not a boy! (with younger guys, I don't mind it that much).


I keep my bush fully grown and I expect an older lover to do the same.

A shaved cock is a turn-off for me.
A shaved cock is a turn-off for me.

Pubic hair aside, I'm looking for a hairy, dominant older guy to feel protected in his arms. That person would be a protector, guardian, guide, and mentor for me.


In any case, there are always exceptions to all these "rules" because chemistry is a crucial factor.


Two years ago, I had sex twice with an overweight, older guy at the nudist beach. I wasn't attracted to him at first, but I felt close to him and his thick, hard cock after talking with him for an hour.


His pickup line was: "There's so much sand on your beautiful balls."

He reached and cleaned my balls right after.
He reached and cleaned my balls right after.

He fucked me doggie-style twice during that beach season.


On to the next argument:

"I kind of threw up in my mouth when you mentioned you could not look at his body. It was hurtful to me, it IS shallow, mean and says more about you than him"

The person he was talking about had probably invaded my privacy at the nudist beach and tried to force himself on me. I admit that when that happens, I get furious.


Still, I'm sorry if I used such rude words in my blog post. I'll try to be more sensitive next time.


It goes on and on:

"Why would I subject myself to more of your fat-shaming by reading more of your otherwise, colorfully descriptive and masterfully erotic, skilled command of the English language!"

My blog costs me a lot of time and money, and I don't ask for a penny/cent in return. If someone doesn't like the blog, he's free to leave.


I'm not sure what did he expect of me? To offer him a reward for staying?


His accusation that I'm "fat-shaming" is simply absurd.


Maybe his anger originated because I often write about the importance of working out and staying in shape.


I stand behind those statements!

On my workout bench.
On my workout bench.

Working out and staying in shape makes one feel stronger, live better, and most likely longer. It has nothing to do with fat-shaming.


For optimum health, you should also focus on eating only organic fruits and vegetables and unprocessed food.


Most importantly, a vegan diet can also help you lose weight and live longer.


As regards: "I mean no disrespect, but I am being as blunt as you are."


Maybe I'm "blunt" but I'm never rude when speaking directly with someone.

If you want people to listen to you, be polite and smile!
If you want people to listen to you, be polite and smile!

He's chosen to address me disrespectfully. Therefore I'd like to show him the proper way to address someone when bothered or even angry while still being honest and respectful:

"Hi Theon. I was hurt by your blog post and wanted to discuss it. When will be a good time for it?"

As regards: "I hope that you might experience some growth and enlightenment on this subject."


That's my last message for him:


Next time you should think before lashing out at someone you know very little about. Your "hope" for my "growth and enlightenment" is honey mixed with poisonous words.


I treat everyone with respect, but I admit I have little patience for people like you who disrespect me or my time.


With respect,

Theon.
Theon.

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